View inner impulses with the same apprehension

that you do with a bossy person.

When someone tries to boss us around we invariably resist. 

Who does she think she is?

He’s got a nerve telling me what I should do. 

And so we dig in our heels and refuse to listen to their bossy advice. We can make our own decisions, thank you very much.

But what about our own whims? Any advice needed with them? For example: past conversations. What is it that compels us to replay them in our minds? Verbal disagreements: what compels us to argue with someone in the first place?

More-than-one syndrome: the imported chocolates, courtesy of a friend, beckoning to us. A good reason to enjoy one. Delicious! Then we feel compelled to eat another. After the third one, guilty thoughts arise and our delight turns into embarrassment. We blame our lack of willpower.

Just as we now resist being dictated by the apparent whims of others, we need to develop the control to not be dictated by our own whims and impulses.