Easing the Fears of Others
February 14, 2007 An important form of giving is to relieve the worries and fears of others. A friend told me of an incident that had occurred in her home. A caring woman with an excellent sense of humor, she does draw the line at some things. Upon walking into her bathroom, she saw a large python on the floor. Having good reflexes, she drew the line and firmly closed the door. Knowing she was not at risk, her immediate thought was for her elderly cat that could no longer move quickly.
Jenny, who is Buddhist by practice, called to her husband, Rob, who is Buddhist at heart. Rob looked in the phone book and located a snake catcher. However, before the snake catcher was allowed to leave the premises with his catch, Rob painstakingly queried the gentleman: Was the snake okay? How would it be released and where? Would it be safe or would it be subject to any risk?
The snake catcher patiently explained that he would take it a considerable distance away before he would release it in a safer and more natural environment. My two caring friends watched while the snake catcher carefully checked the python, and then assured them that it had not suffered any from its capture and that it would be fine in a safer habitat.
How many of us would have taken the time, made the effort, and gone to the expense that was involved in catching and saving the snake? This was a case of the giving of safety and of caring for the welfare of others, even when the “other” is a six-foot python This is helping other beings feel safe around us because this offering of fearlessness and safety was not given to only one being—the cat—but also to another, to the snake.
Every thought we have is instantly felt by all others throughout the universe, for we are all one: We are all inter-related. We just do not yet realize this because we have not experienced this oneness. In the above example of the snake, the thought was to protect one life without harming the other. That thought, of compassion and loving-kindness, was felt by all beings whether they were in the house with the snake or on the other side of the universe.
Many people who find themselves in this situation probably would have thought “To protect my cat I will kill the snake.” But Jenny and Rob’s thoughts did not come from attachment to their cat or from the desire to protect what was theirs. Rather, their thoughts arose spontaneously from the reverence held equally for all forms of life and their wish to provide security and safety.
Reader Comments (2)
Thank you for a very good question! If we are not yet able to put the fears of others before our own, we can approach this from a different perspective. Knowing about cause and effect, we can understand that if we harm another being, we will in turn be harmed in the future. So not wanting to be harmed, we try to find ways to not harm others. Yes, this is self-centered, but if we can't save a life from purely good intentions, at least we do so from those that are not so pure.
Start with the creatures that you're least afraid of and try to either ignore them (if you hadn't seen them you wouldn't have become fearful to begin with) or catch and free them. Keep a clear cup (keeping an eye on the critters will make you more comfortable ;-)) and quickly place it over the insect. Then carefully slide a piece of cardboard under the cup. When the insect is safely inside the cup and covered by the cardboard, turn the cup over to insure it doesn’t get out, and take it safely outside and let it go. While doing this, tell it you don't wish to harm it and ask it not to return. Chant "Amituofo" and plant a seed for it's future awakening.
To get over our own fears, it helps to consider the fears of others. Doing so, we gradually forget our own fear.
Does this help?