Transform enemies into friends.
It starts with what we tell ourselves. Out with negative chatter, in with positive self-talk.
When next with the person who irritates us, look for something he does that’s kind. Ignore how you feel about him. Just focus on that kind behavior. That’s your first “turn.” It enables you to react positively to him, which will be imprinted in his store consciousness.
If there’s no change in him, try again. Don’t just throw up your hands and quit. Focus on that kindness. At some point, those Kind-reaction Seeds in his consciousness will mature. By planting dozens of seeds instead of only one, your odds for growing flowers improve.
As you’re casting seeds in his consciousness and planting them in your own, remember, all you can control is your own thoughts and emotions. Just as you toss in a few flower seeds into his sadly barren yard when you walk by, in hopes that they will bring him happiness, you should also nurture your own.
You’ll grow a beautiful garden.
After seeing it, he may just want one too.